There are many mistruths floating out in the universe about relationships. Most of these false ideas stem from our romanticized culture, and unfortunately can set us up for unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.
Two of the most prevalent misconceptions are that good relationships should always feel easy and that that person will be your rock for the rest of your life.
In reality, life sometimes has us drifting away from our partner, even when we don’t want to. Increased pressure at work, busy schedules, additions to the family or loss within the family can cause the emotional closeness to fluctuate at times.
Sometimes, as we process life’s biggest challenges, we may forget to turn toward our biggest ally.
Relationships are not easy. There are times when they will feel amazing, like something no words can describe, and at other times they feel like a constant struggle.
Relationships are like anything else in life, you have to put some hard work in to get the rewards. When two lives meld together to become “we” versus “you and I”, there are going to be some bumps in the road. Part of a relationship is determining if we can navigate these bumps together—or are these holes in the road making it too difficult for us to move forward?
If we don’t tend to our relationship and address these bumps in the road, we will start to drift apart and feel disconnected.
How to stay connected with your partner
What are some ways we can keep our connection strong and keep building on our love?
1) Take time to talk daily
These don’t have to be long, deep conversations. But letting your partner in on your daily life and listening to them share helps maintain a connection and an understanding of their inner world.
2) Send each other messages (or memes) daily
Letting your partner know you are thinking about them assures your partner that even when you are apart, they are on your mind.
3) Have a ritual(s) together
This can be as simple as having dinner together, celebrating a milestone, or any other activity that is special and just for the two of you.
4) Prioritize spending time together
Date nights and/or together time are important for maintaining your connection. If you never spend time together you will slowly grow apart.
5) Know each other’s soft spots and avoid them
If you know your partner is sensitive about a particular subject, do not weaponize it or use it against them. Some hurts, especially repeated ones, are difficult to take back.
6) Make future plans together
Dream together! What are things you can work toward together as a team?
7) Ask for what you want (and be specific)
It is easy to say what we hate, but it comes off as nagging or judgmental. It is infinitely more helpful to our partner to say what we actually want or what could help us.
8) Be organized together
Have a calendar. Make lists. Avoid logistical arguments by finding a way to organize your lives together.
Staying connected with your partner takes work and commitment. If you or someone you know is struggling with this issue, don’t hesitate to contact us for a free consultation today.